Workshops & Counseling for Couples

Creating healthy relationships—because everyone deserves to experience real intimacy.

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Suffering in an Unhappy Relationship?

Does missed communication run rampant in your relationship? Does conflict come out of nowhere and never get resolved? Have sex, romance and passion disappeared? Do you fear your relationship might be doomed?

Everyone Deserves to Experience Real Intimacy

Many couples are unhappy with their relationship or wonder if it could be better. At SF Bay Counseling, we offer counseling and workshops to equip couples with the tools they need to create a healthy relationship and experience real intimacy.

  • Renewed passion & romance
  • Sexual intimacy
  • Trust & commitment
  • Fondness & admiration
  • Life dreams come true
  • Shared dreams
Happy couple. Happy couple.
LeMel Firestone-Palerm, LMFT, LPCC, CGT

It is Possible to Have a Passionate & Fulfilling Relationship

LeMel Firestone-Palerm, LMFT, LPCC, CGT I know how frustrating and painful it can be to be in a relationship that isn’t working. As a Certified Gottman Therapist, I work using methods based on over 40 years of research to assist you in learning effective skills to learn how to manage conflict, create intimacy, and build meaning into your relationship.

A Passionate and Fulfilling Relationship for a Lifetime

A passionate and fulfilling relationship requires a healthy partnership that provides real intimacy. Alas, life happens; as time goes on, your relationship evolves, and some transitions can be particularly challenging. If you wish for your happy relationship to endure for a lifetime, there are steps you can take.

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Missed communication is a common cause of relationship strife, as it can lead to conflict. Toss in negative emotions, and flooding—that state in which your brain disconnects and you’re at the mercy of your feelings (or your partner’s)—and things can get ugly.

Potentially this creates a feeling of isolation, of being dismissed by your partner. If the Four Horsemen of the relationship apocalypse show up (contempt, criticism, defensiveness and stonewalling), you could well be on the path to leading parallel lives, or even the dissolution of your relationship. Along the way, you can expect to experience emotional disengagement and loneliness. I know it is not a happy place to be.

Fortunately, you and your partner can learn skills that will enable you to strengthen your relationship and proactively shield it from this cascade of doom. We are talking about proven research-based skills—research spanning over 40 years and more than 3,000 couples.

As a Certified Gottman Therapist, I offer a variety of options for you and your partner, from two-day workshops (one, BTW, specifically aimed at new or expecting parents), to an intensive private retreat, to ongoing couple’s counseling. Not sure what is best for your situation? Then schedule a free phone consultation, and together we’ll determine the best plan of action so you can embark on your journey to ensuring a healthy relationship for yourself and your partner.

In the meantime, be sure to get your copy of my exclusive guide—Things your mama never told you about talking dirty…so you can get started by improving your sex life.

Stop wondering if your relationship could be better, and make sure you’re on your way to real intimacy.

Toward a Healthy Relationship

1. Schedule

Schedule a free phone consultation.

2. Confer

Together, we’ll determine the best plan of action.

3. Start

Embark on your journey to a healthy relationship.

Workshops for Couples

The Art and Science of Love
Two days of engaging presentations and experiential activities designed to strengthen your relationship. This workshop is for couples of every age, ability and sexual orientation who are in committed relationships.

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The Art & Science of Love 2
Re-discover The Art & Science of Love. Through interactive exercises and enlightening presentations, you’ll refresh and expand the skills previously learned, as well as deepen your connection with your partner.

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Bringing Baby Home
If you are expecting a baby, or you have children three years and under, this workshop is for you. You will learn to strengthen your relationship and foster your baby’s development during this challenging time.

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Gottman Method Couples Counseling

Regular Sessions

Get started with an industry-leading assessment process over three sessions.

  1. History of the relationship.
  2. Individual perspectives on the relationship.
  3. Review the results of the assessment process & a practical plan of action.

Private Retreat

An effective alternative to traditional weekly sessions that condenses months of counseling into one, two or three days.

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Telehealth Option

Now offering you secure video visits. Online appointments allow you to receive the same quality of care as you do in person. Contact me for more information.Powered by


"LeMel is the consummate professional. Caring, clear and effective. Thank you!"
— Randall
Sacramento, CA
Art & Science of Love
“LeMel's naturally warm and intelligent manner helped my husband and me reconnect after over a decade of marriage. The course has given us a blueprint for dealing with issues in the future, and unexpectedly helped us enjoy each others company as friends with lots of laughs while discovering each other during the exercises.”
— K. Simpson
San Francisco, CA
Art & Science of Love
"The workshop helped us discuss & resolve issues that we previously struggled with. We were able to talk about the problems in a more focused, more productive way. Thanks so much for giving us tools, which we will use in the future when faced with conflict."
— Susan Mah
Hayward, CA
Art & Science of Love 2
"I gained a greater awareness of how my behavior affected my husband's; I gained new insights about how to go about discussing difficult topics, and I gained skills to help tackle re-occurring sensitivities which tend to create distance within our relationship."
— Deanna
Sacramento, CA
Art & Science of Love
“Such a transformative experience for us individually and as a couple. We turned the corner (we needed this!). The material was so easy to understand, was fair for both men/women's roles & educated us in an approachable way. LeMel was warm, knowledgeable, & added great levity with her personal experience.”
— Anonymous Workshop Participant
Napa, CA
Couples Counseling
“Very helpful in improving relationship communication and positive outlook, in a nice and safe environment. I would highly recommend to anyone wanting to improve relationships.”
— A.J.
Fremont, CA
Art & Science of Love
"We found the workshop very approachable. No one should have any qualms regarding attending."
— Stacey N.
Sunnyvale, CA
Art & Science of Love
“We have been gridlocked on an issue for a couple years. We just talk in circles. Today, through the workshop, we had a break through in understanding and categorizing it so much differently. We had never looked at it from this perspective and understood the underlying dream and childhood connections before. Fascinating and incredibly helpful!”
— Anonymous Workshop Participant
Art & Science of Love 2
"The opportunities to practice were invaluable, as was the coaching along the way."
— Anonymous Workshop Participant
Sacramento, CA
Art & Science of Love
“The exercises in this program provide a structure for dealing with conflicts within a marriage. I appreciate LeMel's clean and simple guidance with working with the program. I think both my wife and I will benefit from this program.”
— Jim B.
San Jose, CA
Art & Science of Love
"Thank you to the wonderful intro to ASL. We reaped great insight into ourselves & our relationship. We look forward to continuing the exercises and growth."
— Anonymous Workshop Participant
West Texas
Art & Science of Love
"LeMel is an excellent facilitator of Dr. Gottman's program. She has an experienced approach and is deeply knowledgeable about the concepts. Our relationship is better off today for it. Thank you!"
— Anonymous Workshop Participant
San Francisco, CA
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Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist MFC 42162
Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor LPC 1534
Certified Gottman Therapist